I’ll be happy when, If only I hadn’t, I feel desperate, I feel insecure, I’m sick with worry, I’m anxious, I’m out of control, I need to manipulate this, I’ll complain, You owe me …

The pace and turmoil associated with modern life sweeps us along and lays down markers as to how we are measuring up against everyone else. A constant review of perceived achievement or under achievement. All day, every day. It exhausts us.

How can we ever be at peace if our whole life is a competitive race against time and everyone else?

The above comes at a cost. It’s called attachment. We have gotten ourselves in to a cycle that suggests that our happiness and inner peace are dependent upon things outside of our control.

But can you begin to develop a gentle understanding that the less you attempt to control or manipulate a situation the more you allow a natural order to ease into your life?

Compare your approach to a flowing stream. As the water rolls down it creates a path. If there is a natural obstacle then it gently works its way around it and continues its journey. The energy within the water is always the same. But just like the tree that sheds its leaves, it knows that everything is perfect. Sometimes it’s slow, other times it quickens, but perfect all the same. There is always a way through, and so it arrives clean and pure.

Now imagine a different stream, this time the water is desperate to reach the same desired destination. It stops, attempts to go back, becomes stagnant, smashes against anything in its way, breaks its banks and dissipates. The destination for both streams is exactly the same, which route do you take?

Whilst there is a passive element to this approach this in no way means that we relinquish our desire to reach a goal, or an end result.

A musician can write or learn a piece but understands that the performance becomes magical when they are able to let go and lose themselves within the music. I’ve heard it said that it’s the space between the notes that makes the difference.

When writing a book, I approach each chapter with an outline, an intent, but have truly come to understand that when I relax, the right words appear on the page at just the right time.

The Tao Te Ching is a Chinese masterpiece that offers us a timeless guide to life.

The author Lao Tzu tells us: “When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be.”